What would you do?




Lovey and I recently had a small disagreement (and it was really small) over a matter I wanted to run by you all. It’s not a big deal, but I’m just curious as to what you would have done. Every year our (participating) neighbors host a 4th of July Block Party. The streets are barricaded, decorated…the whole bit.  We have never attended because we always spend 4th of July with my family. Also, the event is kids oriented, and we have no children. Anywho.  I contacted the party planner (she lives across the street) and told her we had other plans and would not attend. A few days after that, her husband came to the door asking for a donation. Lovey politely said no, because we weren’t even attending (never have, and probably never will). The man said that it was for the barricades, street decorations, etc. Lovey still politely said no. I wouldn’t mind giving them money, I really wouldn’t, but Lovey insisted that it was illogical for them to ask when we weren’t attending… I see his point, but I’m also curious to see what you guys think. To donate or not to donate? I appreciate your opinions.. Thanks!








PS. I should have prefaced this by saying money is super tight during the summer months for us. Every dollar is budgeted. For real. 

PPS. Also, Lovey is not a cheap skate by any means. He's extremely generous.

19 comments

  1. Well personally if moneys tight (as is for me at the moment too) I wouldn't donate, it's kind of rude for them to go door to door pressurising people into giving them money for something the're not even taking part in. I don't think you should feel bad, it's not like it's even a charity it's just for a party thing right? that you're not even going too. Yeah I'm kind of with your boy on this one, I'm not a cheap skate at all but in this situation I'd probably dig my heels in and not give the money.

    Either way, I hope you both have a great 4th July whatever you do. :)
    xx

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  2. Hmm, that's a tough one because you aren't attending, but you don't want your neighbors mad at you. I think it was ok for him to say no to the donation. You guys aren't participating and it wasn't your idea to blockade and decorate the whole area.

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  3. Honestly, I don't think you should have to donate, I mean if you were attending or had ever attended maybe that would be a different story.

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  4. Keyword, DONATION. No one can force you to give money if you don't want to or can't. Your neighbor should be understanding and be on his merry way. After all, you won't be attending & have never attended. He could have easily said well if you can't donate, maybe you can volunteer to help with the decorations. Maybe its me, but I hate it when people are pushy.

    xoxo

    Cinderella's Closet NYC

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  5. I agree with everyone who's posted - he was totally in the right by politely saying no! Just be your sweet selves to everyone, as I'm sure you are, and don't worry about it!

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  6. Like everyone else, I think it's perfectly okay to not donate. This is not something that was your idea, nor is it a "noble cause."

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  7. i think if you were to attend the party, you can donate, but you're not even going to be there.

    I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.
    you're not going, so no need to donate! :)

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  8. not donate. If you're not going or participating I would'nt feel bad about not donating:)

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  9. No way! I would have reacted the exact same way!! No worries!

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  10. I think you are completely fine and should not worry! I probably would have done the same.

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  11. Um, no way. No need to donate. In fact, I think it's rude of your neighbor to even ask, especially since you aren't going to be there. Maybe his wife didn't relay the message so the first time is potentially excusable. But once you explained that you weren't even going to be there, he should NOT have pushed the issue and try to pressure you to donate! How rude of him! You guys are totally fine not donating. If you were participating, of course you should contribute your fair share. The key is "fair" share, though, and it's not fair to ask you to donate to someone else's party that you aren't even attending!!!

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  12. I hate being obligated to donate. Plus if you are not going to be there it doesnt make sense to me.

    Also this reminds me of a Friends episode where Ross moves into a new Apartment and the old Maintenance man is retiring and they ask Ross to donate a $100 to add to his farewell card and Ross said no since he just moved in and doesnt know the guy but the neighbors held it against him. It was funny and dumb and I totally sided with Ross. Long story short if you want to compromise donate $1 it counts as something :)

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  13. That's tough because you want to be kind and generous... but at the same time, money is tight especially in our economy. I think it was a good choice to not contribute because you weren't going and also because it wasn't like a good cause that would help people from dying or something, haha.

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  14. There is NO WAY I would give them money for it! Seriously if your not even going to be attending, why would you want your street barricaded in the first place?? Haha. I mean it is not money to feed homeless kittens or anything. haha.

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  15. I think Lovey made the right choice. It would be different if you planned to attend, ya know?!

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  16. I think it is all up to you guys and what God would put on your heart. If you don't feel like he is pressing on your heart urgently to give then I wouldn't. God is the best budgeter! ;)

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  17. Thank you for your comments friends! You guys are awesome!

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  18. I agree with Lovey! =) I honestly don't think they even should have asked for a donation. Y'all aren't going to the party and won't even be around (since you'll be with your fam). So, yep, I'd have done the same thing!

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  19. of course he's not a cheap skate, i get it and saying no is always a toughie. i'm late in the debating game but it seems lovey weighs his decisions heavily and so do you, both of you are kind, giving hearts but sometimes we all feel the pinch. whether it's a question of helping physically or monetarily. we can only do what we can do, doubt means don't; Lovey felt the YES to say NO and if it's not keeping you up at night then rest well knowing you've made the right choice. xo ♥

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